“Don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering”
– ‘Winnie the Pooh’
There are days, when sometimes we feel guilty by not being able to do something. Our sons condition often prevents him from wanting to engage with the world and it can be a challenge to even get into the garden and mow the lawn or prune the flowers, because he needs that constant attention.
There was a time when I would get frustrated at this seemingly waste of valuable time, but over the years we have come to learn that this is part of what we need to expect and to create activities not only to occupy our sons mind, but also our own minds when we remain indoor.
Our libraries developed, books, music and films. An interest in fact finding on the internet to answer those long abandoned questions, we never got round to discovering, genealogy (who am I really) learning to play a musical instrument – all that can be done within eyesight and earshot of our son.
It was on one of those days, I had revisited our library and in particular ‘Winnie the Pooh’ a classic from my childhood that has remained with me over the decades and this line “Don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering” resonated strongly. We use this technique with our son too, and spend time sitting comfortably, with eyes closed, listing for the sounds of life all around us, or absolute silence.
I no longer feel that frustration, what ever I needed to do, can wait until tomorrow … or the next day