Not impressed

Not impressed

Always a greeting

For a few days, I have to take part in civil duties. That means I will be away each day. Our son continues to be cared for and watched over by my wife and his Aunt, but I’ll not pretend the absence of myself or my wife for such long periods of time is not easy for him to come to terms with. He lets us know in many ways how much he is ‘not impressed’

We will get through it and he will get through it, and keeping him active is even more important during this time.

He’s not alone in being affected by this as we realise that Lady Bronte has grown accustomed to our routines now as well. Almost anticipating what we will do when and being ready to join in. Always with an ear on the door or the car engine when one of us is out, desperate for that little sign or sound that we are returning.

We don’t leave her alone or caged, even for a short time, and she comes with us everywhere. When we did recently all have to go out, we took advantage of a lovely ‘pet-sitter’ who lives nearby and who took her walking and swimming for the time we were away. socialising with other dogs too, she had a ball.

In the next two to three weeks we are hoping she will be joined by a new feline sister. A 14 year old cat that we are adopting into the family. We have always had cats around the house and Lady Bronte was fabulous with our last cat, who has sadly passed away now and we don’t want to leave it too long before she is reintroduced to one. Before Lady Bronte, we had a golden Labrador (Jasper) who also had a very good relationship both with our son and with the cats we had then.

Our son also learns so much by having animals around. It helps greatly with his understanding relationships as he does bond with the cats and dogs far more easily than people. One of the autistic symptoms relates to his inability to strike relationships and is not too comfortable in other peoples company. With our cats and dogs, he is so much more at ease, and holds many conversations with them, seemingly as if he gets an answer back.

It is important as well, as he sees the need to care for them, exercising them, feeding them, ensuring they have fresh water throughout the day, sensing when they are unwell or want to play. We go shopping at the supermarket and our son takes responsibility for reminding me to buy food and choosing something for them.

During this period I’m away for much of the day, Lady Bronte will play an important role – unbeknown to her – in ensuring our son remains focused on these things until I get home.

Animals are well documented as a form of assistance for many illnesses, disabilities and age and the relationship that is struck up, particularly with those with autism, can been very rewarding. Dogs and Horses in particular seem to have an ability to calm the anxieties of those with autism.

6 thoughts on “Not impressed

  1. I am not usually a Blog reader, but I enjoyed reading yours for this day. Helps to get to know you and Marc and your wonderful dog a bit better. You are a wonderful father, and it seems you do a great job with Marc. I’m sure he loves you very much. You are an inspiration.

    1. You are very kind Irene, thank you so much for those kind words. My hope is always that if I share a little of what we face and how we deal with it, then those who may have similar challenges may read this and feel more comfortable in realising they are not alone and also may take inspiration by what we do, to try themselves. My wife and I learned early on, that parents and carers really don’t talk openly about their responsibilities and frustrations and yet, so many share the same feelings and if we all opened up just a little but more, solutions or even just letting off steam would happen so much more frequently for us. My hope in starting to write this blog, is that someone somewhere feels, it has helped them, even if I never know about it.

      1. Thank you, Paul! I’m sure there are many people out there who can share your experience and will if they see your blog. Are you on FB? You might want to check there to see if there are any groups you can share with. I am not on FB anymore but when I was I belonged to a group for people who have or had an acoustic neuroma. This is a tumor that leans on your hearing nerve and causes deafness in that ear as well as other issues. I found a lot of people sharing their experiences to be very helpful.

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